| My first cake! | | Well, I need some advice, and I know this is the perfect place to ask. See, my little brother is having his Bar Mitzvah in a couple of months. This, for those unfamiliar with the tradition, means (among other, far more meaningful things, like my brother becoming a Jewish adult) throwing a big party for all of his friends. My mom is more or less on her own with the planning of this, and she's the freak-out type anyway; so she's freaking out a bit. Already! I know. Anyway, she also is unable to afford any sort of lavishly catered event. In order to help her to feel better about having so much to do and so little to spend on it, when I was visiting home around New Year's I volunteered to make the cake. (By the way, I also said I would DJ. This was not a good idea - I'm living in Switzerland, and I don't even listen to the radio or watch TV, ever. I am probably more out of touch with what the kids are listening to these days than most American septuagenarians. All of those 13-year-olds are going to throw their yarmulkes at me, or worse) I have an artistic bent and even some cake-decorating experience (I worked at Baskin Robbins in high school - why does that seem so pathetic,... | |
| | Today you are a Man! | | In the jewish faith a boy does his bar mitzvah at 13 and the girl does one called a bah mitzvah, the child is said to come of age at that time,
Here in North America, many young girls had a cotillion in years gone by or a "sweet sixteen party" a way of introducing them to society as a young woman.
Many Canadians can't wait until they are 18 and then legally adults and they have big parties with alcohol etc, in the states it can happen at 21.
I didn't have a party that I can remember, when I turned 19.
What is your custom and experience with coming of age?Did you have a religious ceremony like the Jews, or a big social thing etc? | |
| | My son's Bar Mitzvah is this coming Shabbat | | My son's Bar Mitzvah is this coming Shabbat, parshat Shoftim! If you live in Jerusalem, private message me and I'll tell you where and when.
If you look at my Avitar, Ze'ev Shlomo is the big boy standing in front of me. In the background is a baby elephant, not me! Ze'ev Shlomo is now 13 and is a very smart boy, if I do say so myself, and very modest as well. Should we all have only happy occasions such as this!! Rachael | |
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| You can't have both parents at your wedding what do you do? | | children who are products of divorce face this situation more often than you may think.the parents are divorced and do not see eye to eye.But now the daughter or son is grown up and they are getting married an occasion that should be one of the best time of their livesYet they know they cannot have their divorced parents in the same room with each other because a fight will break up.These children know the routine oh the parents promise to behalf themselves, for their child's special day, maybe it was a graduation, or a bar mitzvah, a concert at school whatever but try as they might they just can't get along and there is always a fight with name calling or worse.You as the child have gone through all of this in the past you know the result, but now it is your wedding (your wedding not my wedding but your wedding)what do you do, you love both your parents and you want both of them there,ask them to behave is useless you know they can go only so long with out getting into it so what do you do? | |
| | | Being Catholic and having a Conformation Name | | When you are growing up you have to struggle daily often with the hard name your parents gave you. Now why did I say hard? If you were growing up during before 1960 your parents generally had your name picked out for you. They pretty much had little choice. It was either a hand me down name and had to follow what was passed down from one generation to another and they had little choice. It was your faters name or mother grand parents name, or somebody's name in the family. Or your name was a promise that somebody made when good deed was done or other heroic act was done. But there you had it. And generally it was a religious name and was Hebrew or Christian or came from the Bible. Then you had names that you were given to you at the time when you became a man or a woman in the Jewish religion at a bar mitzvah. But then you are given a name also in the Catholic religion when you are confirmed at the age of 12. At least that is when I was confirmed. I loved going threw my conformation. This was the only time I got to pick my name. I don't know if any of the rest of you were allowed to pick your name but I am glad I was. I saw a movie when I was 7 years old about Our Lady of Lourdes... | |
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